Author: stevek

  • The Most Valuable Investment You Can Make in Business

     

    ROPHO – Pleasure & Business in Your Sixties 

    One of the most important lessons I ever learnt came from a very successful American businessman many years ago.

    His advice was simple, direct, and it has stayed with me ever since.

    Build value in your products and services, certainly, but more importantly, build value in yourself, and then in the people closest to your business. 

    At first, it sounded like another business cliché, but as time passed, I realised what he really meant. 

    Yes, products matter. Yes, service matters. 

    But the business can only ever grow to the level of the people running it.

    Build value into you first 

    Recognise your strengths, develope them, and most importantly use them. 

    In your sixties (or at any age), you already have decades of experience behind you, that is value

    . Decision making ability, judgement, intuition, work ethic, problem-solving, these are competitive advantages younger entrepreneurs often pay to learn. 

    But that experience is wasted if you don’t intentionally build on it. 

    Spend time improving the skills that matter most to your role:

    • Leadership 
    • Communication 
    • Decision-making 
    • Negotiation 
    • Strategy 
    • Money management 

    When you grow, your business grows. 

    Then build value into your people 

    This is where the magic happens. 

    The American businessman explained it perfectly.

    Recognise your best skills – and then hire, empower or train others to fill the gaps. 

    You cannot, and should not, try to do everything.

    A business becomes strong when the right people are in the right seats. 

    When people feel valued, trusted and supported, they don’t just work for the business, they work with it. 

    • A skilled production manager increases efficiency 
    • A strong financial controller protects profit 
    • A confident sales lead drives revenue 
    • A good administrator frees your time 
    • A third-party expert can save months of mistakes 

    A business is a team sport, even if the team is small. 

    My most satisfying business result wasn’t what most would expect… 

    People assume the biggest reward in consultancy is turning around a failing business. 

    Others think it’s helping launch a successful start-up. 

    Both are satisfying. 

    But the most satisfying work I ever did was something different. 

    Helping a reasonably successful company grow from under £1M turnover to £3M+ profitably, sustainably and without losing its soul. 

    Not because of a magic trick. 

    Not because of a new product. 

    Not because of a lucky contract. 

    But because we developed people, clarified roles, strengthened leadership.

    Introduced accountability and gave the right individuals space to excel. 

    The growth came after the development. 
    Not before. 

    A thought for you, especially if you’re building later in life

    You don’t need to reinvent yourself to be successful. 

    You need to amplify what you already know, and surround yourself with the right support. 

    Skills improve. Systems evolve. People grow. 

    But only if leadership chooses to grow first.

    Quick reflection questions: 

    1. What skill could you strengthen this month that would improve your business most? 
    1. Who in your network could you empower, train or delegate to? 
    1. Where is the business overly dependent on you? 
    1. Who could take something off your plate, so you can lead instead of chase tasks? 

    Write your answers. They matter. 

    And one reminder, from me to you: 

    Don’t just build the business. 
    Build the people who build the business. 

    That’s where real growth lives. 

  • “My Weekly Plan How I’m Rebuilding It for a Balanced 2026” 

    ROPHO – Life, Balance & Doing Our Best with What We’ve Got 

    I’ll start with a confession, I love the idea of a weekly plan, I like writing one, I like how organised it makes me feel. 

    I am also very good at not sticking to it. 

    If you’ve ever created a beautifully structured week, only to abandon it by Tuesday lunchtime, you’re in good company.

    Why weekly plans so often fail (especially later in life) 

    Weekly plans usually fail for one simple reason: 

    They assume life will behave itself. 

    At this stage of life, it rarely does. 

    Energy changes, appointments appear, family needs time, health has a say, motivation comes and goes. 

    So instead of scrapping planning altogether, I’m trying something different for 2026. 

    Not a rigid plan. 

    A framework.

    From “perfect week” to “good enough week” 

    My old weekly plans looked something like this: 

    • Work blocks perfectly aligned 
    • Exercise every other day 
    • Time set aside for creativity 
    • Social time clearly defined 
    • Rest scheduled (but usually ignored) 

    On paper, it was ideal. 

    In reality, it was exhausting, and quietly disappointing when I didn’t follow it. 

    So, I’m rebuilding my weekly plan with one guiding principle: 

    Support life don’t fight it. 

    The new approach: gentle structure, flexible reality 

    Here’s what I’m working towards for 2026 — not as rules, but as intentions

    📅 A Simple Weekly Template 

    Not hour-by-hour. 
    Just broad blocks. 

    Morning / Afternoon / Evening 
    That’s often enough. 

    The goal isn’t precision, it’s awareness

    ❤️ Relationship & Family Time 

    If it’s not lightly protected, it gets squeezed out. 

    That doesn’t mean formal “appointments”, but: 

    • shared meals 
    • walks 
    • conversations without distraction 
    • being present, not just nearby 

    🏃 Movement & Health 

    Not “training plans”. 
    Not targets. 

    Just regular movement: 

    • walking 
    • light resistance 
    • stretching 
    • fresh air 

    Enough to keep energy, strength, and confidence ticking along. 

    You can adapt these depending on your fitness levels and time availability etc. 

    🎨 Hobbies & Creativity 

    This is the one that often disappears first. 

    Writing. 
    Reading. 
    Learning. 
    Thinking. 

    And yet, this is often what gives the most satisfaction. 

    Even short, regular sessions count. 

    😌 Rest, Reflection & Reset 

    Treating this seriously, but not obsessively. 

    Creative energy is strongest some days, weaker others. 
    The plan needs to allow for both. 

    Progress over pressure. 

    This is not “doing nothing”. 
    It’s recovery

    Time without input, time without productivity, time to notice how things actually feel. 

    This is where balance quietly returns. 

    What I’ve stopped doing 

    I’ve stopped trying to plan every day perfectly

    Instead, I’m asking one simple question each week: 

    Does this week include a bit of exercise, connection, purpose, enjoyment and rest? 

    If the answer is mostly yes, that’s a good week. 

    A gentle reminder (for you and me) 

    You don’t need: 

    • a colour-coded planner 
    • a life overhaul 
    • a new version of yourself 

    You need: 

    • kindness 
    • consistency 
    • flexibility 

    And permission to adjust as you go. 

    If you’d like to try this too… 

    You don’t have to copy my approach. 

    But you might like to consider: 

    • one anchor for health 
    • one anchor for relationships 
    • one anchor for enjoyment 
    • one anchor for purpose 

    That’s enough. 

    Before the next post… 

    Here are three gentle questions you might want to reflect on this week: 

    🖊 What part of your week do you most look forward to, and why? 
    🖊 What drains you more than it should? 
    🖊 What would a “good enough” week actually look like for you? 

    Not perfect. 
    Just supportive. 

    Coming next: 

    “One Intention Per Week, Why This Works Better Than Big Goals” 

    We’ll look at: 

    • why small intentions stick 
    • how to avoid self-criticism 
    • and how consistency quietly builds confidence 

    You’re not alone in balancing work, life, love, health, purpose and time. 

    Most of us in our sixties are still figuring it out. 

    And that’s not failure, that’s life. 

    We figure it out together. 

    Below a snippet of the template I’ve created if you would like to give it a try subscribe and I will send you a PDF copy 

    SIMPLE WEEKLY LIFE BALANCE TEMPLATE 

    (Google Docs friendly / printable / calm) 

    How to use this template (very important) 

    This is not a timetable. 
    It’s a framework, something to support life, not control it. 

    Fill it in lightly. Pencil mentality. 

    MY WEEK AT A GLANCE 

    Week of: ___________________________ 

    One word I’d like this week to feel like: ___________________________ 

    ❤️ RELATIONSHIPS & CONNECTION 

    (family, partner, friends, community) 

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    🏃 HEALTH & MOVEMENT 

    (walks, exercise, appointments, rest) 

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    🎨 HOBBIES, CREATIVITY & CURIOSITY 

    (writing, reading, learning, thinking) 

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    💼 WORK / PROJECTS / PURPOSE 

    (                          , paid work, volunteering, contribution) 

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  • It’s Never Too Late to Become Your Own Hero

    ROPHO — Purpose, Courage & Still Showing Up

    “Search for a hero inside yourself.”

    Heather Small sang it years ago, and like many good lyrics, it quietly hangs around in your head until one day it suddenly makes sense.

    As I approach 64 and prepare to launch this website and blog, I had a conversation today — one I’ve had more than once recently.

    It went something like this:

    “Shouldn’t you be slowing down now?”

    It wasn’t meant unkindly.
    It was said with concern, maybe even affection.
    But it stopped me in my tracks.

    Slowing down… or tuning out?

    I tried to explain that what I want to do isn’t about chasing success, money, or proving anything.

    I want to build something that gives people over 60:

    • a place to think
    • a place to talk
    • a sounding board
    • a sense they’re not alone
    • A space where personal, lifestyle, business, confidence, health and purpose can be talked about honestly.
    • Where ideas can be shared.
    • Where people are reminded that dreaming doesn’t have an expiry date.

    The response?

    A smile.
    A pause.
    And then…

    “You’re mad.”

    That was the fourth time in two weeks I’d been told that.

    Instead of putting me off, it convinced me I might be on to something.

    When “mad” really means “uncomfortable”

    Here’s what I’ve learned over the years:

    When people say “you’re mad”, what they often mean is:

    That wouldn’t work for me.

    I’d be too scared to do that.

    I thought life was supposed to get smaller now.

    Society quietly teaches us that later life should be about less:

    less ambition

    less risk

    less curiosity

    less energy

    less contribution

    But what if that’s wrong?

    What if later life is actually about more, just differently?

    More meaning.
    More honesty.
    More choice.
    More freedom to say, “this matters to me.”

    The hero isn’t loud or flashy

    The hero Heather Small was singing about isn’t wearing a cape.

    It’s not about reinvention for the sake of it.
    It’s not about hustle culture or grinding until exhaustion.

    The hero inside yourself is quieter than that.

    It’s the voice that says:

    I’m not done yet.

    I still care.

    I still want to contribute.

    I want to use what I’ve learned.

    Sometimes the bravest thing you can do after 60 is to start something new when the world expects you to stop.

    Why ROPHO exists

    ROPHO isn’t about pretending ageing doesn’t exist.
    It’s about engaging with it honestly.

    With humour.
    With realism.
    With kindness.

    It’s about pleasure and responsibility.
    Dreams and discipline.
    Hope and practicality.

    And above all, it’s about reminding people — myself included — that:

    You don’t age out of purpose.
    You age into it.

    If this resonates with you…

    If you’ve been told to slow down when you feel like you’re only just understanding what matters…
    If you’ve been quietly thinking “there’s more I want to do”…
    If you’ve been labelled mad for still having ideas…

    Welcome.

    You’re in the right place.

    Final thought

    Maybe the real madness isn’t starting something new at 64.

    Maybe it’s believing that curiosity, creativity, and contribution have a sell-by date.

    So yes — I’ll keep searching for the hero inside myself.

    And if this website helps others find theirs too,
    then being “mad” seems like a pretty good place to be.

  • Reviewing 2025 & Planning for 2026 —With Life & Balance

    ROPHO — Lifestyle & Living Well in Your Sixties 

    2025 has been a year of ups and downs, as most years tend to be. 

    Some weeks felt organised, meaningful, and even productive. 

    Others… well… let’s just say “planned” wasn’t the word I’d use. 

    For ROPHO, the year ahead excites me. 

    I’m looking forward to many hours researching, writing, learning, and hopefully helping others like me, people in later life still trying to get this balance thing right. 

    In my business life my earliest mentor and the person I learnt the most from had many wise sayings (his words) this one was one of his favourites, which he repeated consistently.

    Plan, plan, then plan some more. 

    But in my personal life? 

    Let’s just say I’m more fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants than I’d like to admit. 

    I tend to “go with the flow,” do whatever my wife wants (although she may strongly object to that description!). 

    I’m either all in on work or disappear from the world, 

    or all in on life and let everything else slip. 

    Sixty-something years in, I’m better, definitely better, 

    but there is massive room for improvement. 

    And that’s part of the purpose of ROPHO: 

    Not teaching perfection. 

    Not preaching. 

    But exploring life balances together, openly, honestly, with humour and grace. 

    Review of 2025 Personal Life 

    The good – a special trip to Marmaris Turkey for my wife’s twin sisters 60th Birthday, neither are experienced traveller’s.

    It was in fact one of her sister’s first overseas holiday for 30 years.

     It was amazing I have not laughed as much for a very long time, whether it was a boat trip or a shopping expedition, it was hilarious. 

    Our granddaughter’s 21st Birthday party (How did that happen?) 

    Theatre trip to Tina the musical with daughter and granddaughter, much better than expected. 

    Family trips, meals, etc. 

    This list isn’t exhaustive just list the things you had fun doing big and small memories made.

    Creating a Personal Plan That Fits Later Life 

    Business plans I can do in my sleep. 

    Personal plans? Never really done one written down, always in my head. 

     So, this year I thought I would give it a go (currently working on changing my business plan guide into an easy to understand ebook. Free to subscribers) 

    But being older requires a different style of planning — flexible, compassionate, human. 

    Life comes with surprises, health considerations, energy levels that change week to week, family needs, and moments that matter more than schedules. 

    So rather than a rigid life calendar, I’m building a Living Personal Plan for 2026. 

    A plan built around what really matters: 

    Time 

    Connection 

    Health 

    Joy 

    Curiosity 

    Adventure 

    Rest 

    Let’s start with what’s already on the horizon. 

    Things We Already Have Planned 

    Holidays 

    Relaxation. Adventure. Warm evenings. New food. Bare feet on warm sand. 

    As we get older, time away feels even more precious, it resets the soul. 

    We have a big one booked, Thailand, December 2026. 

    It was postponed due to our daughter’s cancer diagnosis, but it’s still there waiting for us. 

    We chose Thailand because: 

    • We have explored a lot of Europe and some Caribbean Islands, we wanted to sample a part of Asia at this time of our life. 
    • The mix of beaches, culture, food & scenery is perfect 
    • Our kids loved it and recommended it 
    • A blend of lazy pool days + exploring temples & markets sounds ideal 

    We’ll also look at a European break mid-year (April–June) 

    Plus, some weekend breaks, just enough to keep the joy flowing. 

    Having something to look forward to matters, psychologically much more than we admit. 

    Most importantly, future memories in the making. 

    Special Occasions 

    • Wedding anniversaries 
    • Significant birthdays 
    • Family gatherings 
    • And for many of us, grandchild milestones, we are blessed, we have six with another due in May. 

    These are anchors in the year, events that remind us why life balance is worth improving. 

    Health Appointments 

    We can’t ignore this part of ageing. 

    I have an annual pacemaker pacing clinic appointment, non-negotiable. 

    Yours may be check-ups, screenings, routine tests, physio, yearly MOT’s for the body. 

    Let’s acknowledge them, not dread them. 

    Health isn’t a background detail anymore; it’s the secret to longevity as I am regularly reminded by our loving daughters. 

    So… Weekly or Monthly Plans? 

    Here’s the tricky question I’m sitting with: 

    Do I plan monthly for flexibility… 

    or weekly for accountability? 

    Because, confession time, I have tried a weekly plan. 

    And it never goes how I imagine. 

    (If you relate, you’re in the right place.) 

    In my next post, I’ll break down my weekly plan, honestly, not perfectly, and how I’m adapting it for a healthier, happier 2026. 

    A plan that includes: 

    • Time with my wife (real time, not “in the same room scrolling” time) 
    • Personal projects & hobbies 
    • Exercise or movement 
    • Social connection 
    • Business/ROPHO creativity 
    • Rest 
    • “No guilt” days 

    Because balance isn’t 50/50. 

    It’s knowing when to swing one way, and when to swing back. 

    Before the next post… 

    Here are 3 gentle reflection questions for you: 

    🖊 What do you already have booked in 2026 that excites you? 

    🖊 Which personal habits slipped this year, and how could you restart them lightly? 

    🖊 What one simple change would make your life feel just a little more balanced? 

    Not 20 changes. 

    Just one. 

    Small improvements stick. 

    Big overhauls rarely survive February. 

    Coming next: 

    “My Weekly Plan How I’m Rebuilding It for a Balanced 2026”  

    It will include: 

    📅 A printable weekly template 

    ❤️ Relationship & family time blocks 

    🏃 Movement/health slots 

    🎨 Hobbies & creativity 

    💼 ROPHO/business work time 

    😌 Rest, reflection, reset 

    You’re not alone in balancing work, life, love, health, purpose and time. 

    Most of us in our sixties are still figuring it out — and that’s okay. 

    We figure it out together. 

  • Can You Eat Healthily in a Restaurant?

    ROPHO — Health, Pleasure & Balance in Your Sixties

    One of the greatest pleasures in life, at least for me, is eating out.

    Not Michelin-star, dress-code, remortgage-the-house gastronomy.

    I’m talking about a good local restaurant or proper food pub.

    Fresh produce, friendly service, and somewhere comfortable, where you can taste the food and still hear the person sitting opposite you.

    We’re lucky here in the UK, despite what people say, there are fantastic eateries everywhere.

    Whether you love traditional British dishes, a cracking curry, or, like me… Italian.
    Beautiful pasta. A decent steak. Real coffee. Warm bread you swear you won’t touch… then touch.

    But here’s the challenge:

    How do we enjoy eating out without expanding our waistbands further?

    “Just eat a salad!” someone will shout.

    Yes, but Mr. Calorie is often hiding in the dressing, the cheese, the creamy sauce poured politely by a smiling waiter.

    So the answer isn’t restriction as is often the case it’s all about balance.


    Preparation (The Healthy Halo Day)

    Today I’ve been very good, preparing for tonight like a man entering a marathon:

    • Walked an insane number of steps
    • Low-fat Greek yoghurt with blueberries for breakfast
    • Tuna & cucumber wholemeal sandwich for lunch
    • Drank enough water to irrigate a small garden
    • Did 45 minutes of resistance training
    • Then sat at my laptop for six hours (balance, right?)
    • Dog walked. Steps topped up. Feeling righteous.

    Healthy body? Check.
    Calorie budget? Saved.
    Smugness level? High.

    Which means…
    Perfect evening for an Italian restaurant.

    Did we plan ahead? Of course not.
    Last-minute booking, quick taxi (raining, no driving excuse!).
    We arrive. Found a table. Menus appear.

    Then the first difficult question:

    “What would you like to drink?”

    This is where intentions and real life wrestle against each other.

    We’d planned to be sensible.
    Maybe a glass of wine each.

    But the waiter says they have a special Merlot, hand-picked by the owner.
    You know the one, described in poetic detail.
    Black cherries. Velvet finish. Oak barrels. Irresistible.

    Sharon looks at me.
    I look at Sharon.

    “This particular Merlot is sold by the bottle.”

    Of course it is, It would be rude not to indulge wouldn’t it!

    • http://myfittnespal time.
    • Bottle of Merlot: approx. 640 calories.
    • Half for me (I promise). 320.
    • Today’s calories so far: 897.
    • Left: 1475.
    • Wine fits.
    • So far, so good.

    Starter: Yes please.


    So… can you eat healthily in a restaurant?

    Absolutely — if you make small choices that balance enjoyment with awareness.

    Some realistic tips (realistic meaning “still fun”):

    Starters

    • Choose tomato-based soups, prawns, bruschetta, cured meats, olives
    • Avoid deep-fried everything unless worth it
    • Share starters — more variety, fewer calories

    Mains

    • Grilled or baked over deep-fried
    • Swap chips for salad or half-and-half
    • Tomato sauces instead of cream
    • Add extra greens — volume without guilt
    • Portion too big? Take half home for lunch tomorrow

    Dessert

    • Share one
    • Or skip and enjoy another glass of wine
    • Or skip nothing and enjoy your life — your choice

    Wine

    • Alternate with water
    • Slow pace, savour it
    • Good wine, oh well more wine

    Health without punishment

    After the meal:

    • Short walk aids digestion & blood sugar
    • Water before bed
    • No guilt, one meal doesn’t ruin everything
    • Consistency beats perfection

    Health is built over months, not meals.


    Why this matters to me

    Since my pacemaker, I’m conscious of balance,
    health, happiness, food, movement, pleasure.

    I don’t want to live a life of “No.”
    I want a life of “Yes — sensibly.”

    Because joy matters.
    Connection matters.
    Good food with someone you love matters.


    Final thought

    You can eat out, enjoy wine, and stay healthy.
    It isn’t about restriction. It’s about awareness, habit & balance.

    Not diet. Not punishment.
    Just living well but with pleasure.

    Don’t forget to email me your stories of eating out healthily.

  • Navigating Breast Cancer as a Family: How to Be There for Your Wife

    We have been on this journey, and for what it’s worth, these are my thoughts.

    I asked Sharon, my wife, to proofread this post and give her honest opinion.

    On professional grounds, I cannot repeat what she said.

    However, I know I must do better and follow my own advice, especially about putting the phone down.

    When life throws a challenge as heavy as breast cancer, it doesn’t just affect the person diagnosed, it ripples through the entire family.

    For many, the hardest part isn’t just coping with the illness itself but watching loved one’s struggle.

    If your daughter is facing breast cancer, your wife is carrying an unimaginable weight as a mother.

    And you, as her partner, are navigating the delicate balance of being strong for her while managing your own emotions. 

    This blog is for those who find themselves in that position, wanting to support their spouse through one of the most difficult chapters of life. 

    Acknowledge the Emotional Storm 

    Your wife may be experiencing fear, guilt, helplessness, and even anger.

    These emotions are natural. The most powerful thing you can do is listen without judgement.

    Avoid rushing to solutions or saying, “be strong.” Instead, validate her feelings with phrases like: 

    “I can see how hard this is for you.” 

    “It’s okay to feel overwhelmed.” 

    Sometimes, just being heard is the greatest comfort.

    Be Present—Really Present 

    Presence isn’t just about being in the same room. 

    It’s about being emotionally available. Put down the phone, turn off distractions, and give her your full attention.

    A gentle touch, a shared silence, or a simple “I’m here for you” can mean more than any grand gesture. 

    Share the Load 

    Stress multiplies when practical responsibilities pile up.

    Offer to take on household tasks, manage appointments, or coordinate with doctors.

    These small actions free her mental space and show that you’re in this together. 

    Encourage Self-Care 

    When a mother’s child is ill, her own wellbeing often takes a back seat.

    Remind her gently that she needs rest, proper meals, and moments of calm.

     Suggest activities that soothe her a walk, a favourite book, or even a short meditation.

    If possible, explore counselling or support groups where she can share her feelings with others who understand.

    Keep Communication Open 

    Ask open-ended questions like: 

    “How are you feeling today?” 

    “What’s on your mind right now?”

    Avoid phrases that pressure her to feel okay. Let her lead the conversation, and when she needs silence, respect that too.  

    Take Care of Yourself 

    Supporting someone through this journey is emotionally draining.

     It’s okay to admit that you’re struggling too.

    Find healthy outlets talk to a friend, join a support group, or keep a journal.

    Remember, your strength comes from being well yourself. 

    Seek Reliable Resources 

    Knowledge can ease fear. Explore trusted organisations such as:  

    Macmillan Cancer Support 

    Local family counselling services

    These resources offer guidance, emotional support, and practical help for families. 

    Closing Thoughts 

    This journey is hard, there’s no denying that.

    But love, patience, and partnership can create a foundation strong enough to weather even the fiercest storms.

    You don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to show up, every day, with empathy and care.

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